July 27, 2016
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Endless Bummer

Summer is my favorite time of year. Yes, it’s hot, too hot most of the time, but my dad was a school teacher and our whole house became electric during the summer months. Dad was home! Swimming pools! Popsicles and ice cream! Fireworks and county fairs! I think for that reason I still have the mentality even as an adult that summer just plain rules. That’s why I was especially bummed when I found out that Todd would be home for a total of 5 days from the end of May to the middle of August. I mean, it’s always good for him to be working, but I just have a major case of thissucksformeitis. This is also our first real summer in Nashville and I really wanted to experience it all with my bestie. I say “real” summer because while we moved last July, we only saw the inside of the DMV and Home Depot for the first few months. Lame. I had so much fun going to see my first concerts since moving to the Music City a few weeks ago (Weezer and Flight of the Conchords) but I always listened to or watched those with Todd so the experiences felt kind of incomplete without him there. No one to take walks with at night when it finally cools down, no one to watch fireflies with in the back yard, no one to sit with like a lazy slug on the couch because it’s literally too humid to breathe outside…anyways, I know I can do all those things by myself or with a friend, but it sort of falls into that weird band wife category of “building a life with someone only to not have them around to actually live that life with” a lot of the time. It can be hard to go back and forth between modes so often and so fast.

Anyways, this post tile is actually a track off of Weezer’s new album which also, incidentally, has my “summer song” on it as well. It’s a Beach Boys inspired summer love song called “(Girl We Got a) Good Thing” and I love that it mixes two of my favorite band’s sounds together. I was so bummed that Todd couldn’t see Weezer with me, but we have tickets for us to go see what will be his first Nashville concert this fall—Bryan Wilson playing the Pet Sounds album! There are several Beach Boys songs that are really special to us and I feel like mentally it’s a really positive thing to look forward to. Maybe we won’t have as many popsicles and pool parties together this summer as I would have liked, but I still need to have a summer that rules while I keep planning a few special nights to look forward to when he returns next month. Fall can be pretty good too, right??

(love that pink lifeguard tower print—good vibes!)

xo. Laura

10 thoughts on “Endless Bummer

  1. Abbie

    My SO is only home from tour for 2 weeks this entire summer (June-Sept) so I understand how you feel. It sucks that summers are the busiest times for bands! I read a lot of blogs but yours is the one that resonates with me the most and I want to thank you for that. Here’s to the fall!

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    1. thebandwifeblog Post author

      Aw, thanks Abbie! I know I don’t have a million followers or readers, but having other gals like you reading makes me want to continue sharing, thanks!!

      Laura 🙂

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      1. Kirsten Clark

        That all sounds so hard! If it’s any consolation, in Nashville the weather stays super summer-y as late as November! You can wear all the shorts and tank tops you want until then, possibly even later than that. So y’all may still have a chance to do some of the summer things you’re hoping for while enjoying the sweltering humidity and intense sunshine. 😉 I’ve gone to the beach at Percy Priest at the end of October and let me tell you, it is even more awesome than when it is officially summer because all the kids are back in school so the beach is pretty much empty, which feels luxurious. If you haven’t been to the Nashville beach, GO! And go after August when hubby gets back and rejoice that kids are back in school! The beach I like is Anderson Road beach. It’s beautiful and sandy and feels like you’re at the real ocean beach without having to drive 6+ hours to get there.

        Sending hope that the next few weeks pass by quickly for you! ❤️

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  2. Bridgette

    As a military spouse I feel this way too! I want to experience things with my husband but I also don’t want to stand idle while he’s away. Planning fun things for the future really helps. 😉

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    1. thebandwifeblog Post author

      It’s weird, but it really does! It’s better to focus on upcoming fun 🙂

      Laura

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  3. Jackie

    My husband and I lived apart for the majority of the last year, due to our jobs. Even though we had a lot of things “going right” during that time, being in two different places and not getting to share little moments was a total downer. It’s hard for people to understand why you might be feeling low in situations like this. I really admire the way you open up about the difficulty of this particular aspect of your marriage.

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    1. thebandwifeblog Post author

      It can be hard for sure, it’s good to have other band wife friends for me that can totally get the situation. Glad you guys are back in the same place!

      Laura 🙂

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  4. Libby

    I’m a band wife, too.
    I mean, my husband isn’t on tour–at all right now. But it can be lonely–even though I can’t even pretend to know what it’s like to have your friend on such a limited basis.
    It’s okay to have a case of thissucksformeitis. It makes perfect sense. Here’s to hoping you start feeling better, soon. 🙂

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