There are SO many new things to get used to in the 4th trimester of pregnancy besides having a new baby in the house. The mood swings, the tired days and nights, and the changes in your body as you recover from the 9 months you just spent pregnant as well as the birth experience. I’d been too busy at the end of my pregnancy to think about what I really wanted my postpartum style to be afterwards but I figured there might be some changes to what I would normally choose based on how my body looked and felt after baby. Now that I’m on the other side of that, I have been noticing that I want more of certain types of styles based on how I’m feeling and I thought I’d share a few of my favorite finds with you so far. I’m a big fan of tall heels but if we are out with Lola I’m a little uncomfortable carrying her with shoes that high so I’ve been wearing shorter chunky-heeled strappy sandals instead. They are perfect because I get a little height and still feel a bit more put together than a flat sandal but I don’t worry about tripping or falling if I’m holding her. I’ve also decided that high-waisted shorts and jeans are definitely the right move for me for this season of life with the postpartum belly- they are like wearing a support girdle if you get a good fit and they help define more of a waist as well (I wore this support girdle for a month after birth, so helpful, and I’ve been wearing this one out since it’s much slimmer under clothing). Since I’m snapping up high-waisted bottoms, I’ve been looking for cute crop tops as well and I love the tops that have knots tied in them (or I just tie one myself if it’s a longer shirt). A few button-up shirts seem like a good idea for nursing access (those can be easy to tie into knots as well and make them into crop tops) and I’ll always love easy casual dresses and jumpers for summer. Thankfully, I know that accessories like fun sunglasses will still fit me just right and I thought a small cute fanny pack might be good to take some essentials in when I don’t want to take my whole purse and the diaper bag. I’ve managed one trip to the mall so far and while it was more exhausting than usual to be sure, it felt really good as well to get a few items that made me feel cute and like my old self again. Gotta get that mojo back one day at a time!
Just wanted to share some sweet family photos we took now that we are a family of 3—still so crazy to me! My gal pal Elsie came over to take some pics before Lola grows out of that newborn phase and I love how they turned out. Is there anything cuter than a newborn yawning?? I didn’t think so… Dress/ Forever 21 (similar here)
Isn’t she an absolute doll? She definitely looks more like Todd at the moment with her dark hair and blue eyes which is totally fine by me! The most “Laura” feature that she has so far is the way she constantly furrows her little brow to look worried all the time which is something I’ve been doing from birth as well—it’s written down in my baby calendar as proof! Can’t wait to see who she really looks like as she grows but I certainly won’t be mad if those pretty blue eyes stay that way!
Can you believe it’s been a month since Lola was born? I think this has definitely been the longest month of my life in a lot of ways (being a new parent is HARD you guys) but we are hanging in there the best that we can and getting to know our sweet baby more and more every day. From what our midwives and doula have said there are a lot of things that tend to be more delayed when you have more of a traumatic birth experience and aren’t able to be together that first day or two (more on that later, need to type out my birth story soon!). Delayed start to breastfeeding can cause some hurdles and even the bonding process takes more time when you can’t be together right away after birth but we are taking each day at a time and slowly figuring it all out together. Lola had her lip and tongue tie lasered open last week and I actually think that helped to activate more of my “Mommy brain” in the bonding process since it was so hard to see/hear her be in pain for that first day. We are still relearning how to breastfeed with better latches and are trying lactation consultants, chiropractic care, and cranial sacral therapy as well as doing tongue and lip stretches every three hours around the clock for another two weeks so the opened areas don’t grow back together—it’s a lot but we’ll get there! I definitely have days where I feel like I’m just barely keeping my head above water (especially when new little fun things like plugged milk ducts appear, UGH) but I just keep repeating to myself what all my Mom friends are telling me…it won’t be forever and that this is the hardest part. Even with all the struggles though I’m still trying my hardest to feel so grateful for a healthy darling baby and soak in all the sights, smells, and sounds of a newborn in the house. Those sweet snuggles and tiny fingers and toes won’t last forever and we are starting to see the beginnings of smiles which is really exciting. All in all, life is very different and very difficult at the moment to be honest but there are some pretty dear moments as well and I’m excited to see all that this next month will bring…
Wow, what a crazy whirlwind the last couple of weeks have been! I can’t believe that Lola is two weeks old and I can already tell that she looks a little bit older from when we first brought her home (she’s lost that swollen newborn look for sure). She’s starting to keep her eyes open for longer stretches at a time and we can already tell she’s got the sweetest little personality.So far the round-the-clock breastfeeding has been the biggest thing to get used to for sure. My milk didn’t come in until day 7 but our pediatrician said that was not uncommon since I had a more stressful labor experience and we weren’t able to be together for the first 24 hours with her in the NICU. We have had some easier and harder days for sure (and she may have a small tongue tie which we’ll have to look into a bit more to verify) but we’ll figure it out eventually! In the meantime having some of my registry items like my hands-free pumping bra, Undercover Mama nursing tanks, and nursing camisoles have made nursing around the house a bit easier. I also have a bunch of various nursing bras that I wear with deep V shirts to make boob access easier as well. I have been wearing a postpartum binder everyday since being home and I’m planning on getting a pair of high-waisted leggings like these once I retire the binder (or for when I want to go out of the house without it on…).First bath!! She cried the whole time but looked so cute in her little bear towel!We just got to a point where Lola will take a few of her naps in our DocATot and it’s been a lifesaver to have her spend a few hours self-contained without having to be held while sleeping. I also got this beautiful pink cover for it as well because, well, why not if it comes in pink too, right? PS. She only has a blanket over her legs if I’m nearby, otherwise we do a swaddle as a blanket…My adorable parents have been here helping out and it’s been such a lifesaver for us. The tearing and stitches I had have made recovery harder so having help with meals and baby holding while I nap or take sitz baths has been such a blessing. My dad read a story to Lola a few days ago and she totally listened to the whole thing and looked at the pictures when he showed her too. So cute!We had Todd’s 35th birthday this past week and while our new life didn’t exactly lend to a full-on celebration, we still made sure he had a few special things to mark the occasion (like his favorite dessert after dinner). We’ve had some of our wonderful friends bringing us meals this past week as well to help out and we so appreciate those kind efforts—if you ever have a chance to bring food for a new Mom and Dad, do it! They will love you forever!
So many big changes lately and while I’ve had some of the hardest days on record, there’s also been a new sweetness and joy added to life as well that I could never have quite imagined. I’m planning on writing out a birth story at some point and I’ll let you know what I used (and didn’t use) in my birth bag as well. We’ll see how many long naps it takes to get all of that done! 🙂
She’s here!! Lola Valentine Gummerman was born at 12:34 on May 7th, her Mama’s birthday (crazy, right!?!). What a birthday present! Not only do we have the same birthday but Valentine is also my middle name (it’s the maiden name of my Grandmother) and we share the same initials too. Technically the inspiration for the name “Lola” comes from a giant grey Maine Coon cat of the same moniker that belongs to one of Todd’s friends (he loves that cat!) soooo she is sort of named after a cat but not really? She is 19 inches and 8 pounds of pure sweetness and joy and we are completely in love with her already. We had a bit of a rough start with some time in the NICU (she had wet lungs) and minor surgery for Mama (episiotomy and 4th degree tears—ouch!!) but everyone is home and doing well and we are extremely grateful for that. We are pretty tired these days but our hearts are so full as we get to know this adorable little creature. Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers for us over the last few weeks and months, it’s time to snuggle in for a bit and enjoy all the precious moments while we can! They don’t stay this little for long!